The Hardest Part About Being An Attorney?

What’s the hardest part of being a lawyer?

We asked—and the top answer was clear:

Dealing with difficult opposing counsel.

You know the dynamic:

They interrupt.

They condescend.

They try to get under your skin.

And if you’re someone who cares about integrity and connection, it’s easy to take the bait.

To feel disrespected.

To react.

But here’s the shift:

It’s not personal. It’s a tactic.

When they pull you out of your power, they win.

When they get to you emotionally, that dynamic is fed.

So don’t play their game.

Instead, try this:

Visualize them as a toddler mid-tantrum. Literally in a diaper if it makes you laugh.

Because that’s often what’s really happening—emotionally.

They’re dysregulated and loud, trying to throw you off balance.

Let them huff.

Let them flail.

Let them posture.

You stay grounded.

For my empaths, this requires protection:

Your energy is not a sponge, soaking up chaos.

It’s a gold ball—centered, calm, and untouchable.

Visualize a sponge in a glass of muddy water - it soaks up the mess.

Now picture a gold ball.

Same water.

It stays intact.

Unchanged.

That's your new standard.

3 strategies to protect your energy:

(1) Recognize the tactic.

Awareness gives you choice. Don’t let their behavior drive yours.

(2) Respond, don’t absorb.

Keep your attention on your purpose, not their performance.

(3) Regulate your body.

Breathe slower. Loosen your grip. Let clarity lead.

The most powerful person isn't the loudest. It is the one who stays centered amidst the chaos.

Remember - they are "not my circus. not my monkeys."

If this resonated, drop a comment. Let’s build tools for emotional resilience—together.